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I need advice, me and my boyfriend dated for 4 months, I'm 18 and he's 22 years old.
Now he's acting differently with me, he just wants to be with me when he wants to, he answers the sms when he wants, and that's very scary for me!
I do not know what to do, because he says it's my fault.




What do you mean, 'the fault' is yours? Blame for the gestures only from him ?? It is his choice not to respond to sms's, it's his choice whether or not he's close to you. The poor thing must be a baby in his diapers, who has no decision power over his own actions ...
In addition, the word Blame can always be more appropriately replaced by the word Responsibility. Then put the latter in the place of the one he uses to speak and have the true 'translation'.

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safirinha1 of October of 2012 at 15:20
The boy is something for you, but there is a different 'personality' there when you are interacting in other circumstances. Many men behave like this, but not all.
You see, in fact, he did have the Face, for example, and he still denies it in the face of so much evidence!
You must feel very bad about it, do not you?
Not being honest with you, he shows you how it will be forever, my dear. What else does he eventually hide from you? Much? Little? Serious things?
He would know only as Time showed.He does it no harm, but has it as a 'correct' way of proceeding in relation to any interactions perhaps, omitting and / or lying, in order to maintain a 'parallel life' where 'no place for the girlfriend' for example .
Do not think that the reason was the death of the father. No, it was not. Only under the pressure of loss did he actually 'sink' into this tendency to maintain a 'parallel life', leaving even 'footprints' (the Face).
This all reveals that he relates 'partially' to you: he partly trusts you, tells his life partly to you, speaks what he thinks and feels only partially to you, hears only partially, and so on.
"Gele" you to it or not, it will not change. He does not do it wrong, perhaps, but because he believes in fact that he is right and that 'life' is just the same. But you will not change it. believe He will always try to 'circumvent' his indignation by inventing more lies or incurring more omissions. He will never be completely authentic, my dear.
Now it's up to you. If you are prepared for 'surprises' over time, perhaps for the rest of your life if you actually join it in marriage, continue. If not, get out of that relationship and look for a guy who fits your expectations.
He will resist the breakup, of course. He will insist, for he needs people to 'assert' that lying and omitting is normal and acceptable in affective relationships or in any other interactions. And lastly, if the 'way' that he will provide will not bear fruit as he demands, he may threaten, brutalize, and so on.
Do not be surprised, it is very likely that he will react like this. In this case, she should be supported by her family and by groups of friends and, lastly, by authorities if necessary.

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safirinha1 of October of 2012 at 15:52
I wish to complement with a real story, lived by a close relative.
She knew a man, they dated and they came to marry. This man had been engaged before he met his wife. Well. He left with the bride after the wedding, the girl became pregnant, the child died hours after birth and the girl a few days later due to problems in childbirth.
(In any case, the wife lived married to her husband, quiet and just touching her life normally, while her husband silently saw the ex-fiance gestating as if it were normal.)
In this period, the problematic childbirth, in fact very stressful time as you can imagine, noting the wife something very wrong in her husband, began to ask what was, etc., because he was so tense, because he did not sleep well, etc., and he, surprisingly, even in the face of such a serious situation, only said he was working, problems with the boss, sick mother, nephew with problems in school, broken car on the road, etc.
Of course, they were lies: she dealt with a stillborn child and the ex-fiancée, then her lover, in a UTI between life and death. He provided a wake, coffin, certificates, interviews with physicians about the girl's health in a serious condition in the hospital, etc., but not even in a situation of such seriousness involving two sequential deaths, including that of a newborn child, gave in. I would rather lie.
Why did not he imagine that such a subject would come to the public? But still, he lied.
Naturally, this marriage collapsed further, though the wife had 'forgiven' him at the time of that tragic episode. She confessed that she finally realized that he had acted like this forever and that he never left or would not do so even after this serious incident; even though she pointed out that after such a circumstance, he should change himself. But which, said this relative, was like talking to the walls.Answer
luisa22 of October of 2012 at 20:09
fire need help boyfriend with an older boy that I have 25 I have 19 maybe by age difference we do not understand we are always fighting. I always try to finish the relationship but he nunk accepts it is 5 times or 6 that I I try to finish and he nuna deja di sempr k likes me a lot and I do not like it sometimes xega to cry just to finish it km okk I do it stayed km it or finished help me

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safirinha22 of October of 2012 at 21:25
You should only go back to it, if you break the courtship, if you really love him, and, perhaps, by the following parameters: if the relationship for you is peaceful and satisfactory and if a sense of accomplishment prevails in your heart all the time next to the boy. If you feel tense, something upset, frightened of him, or even just desirous of getting away from his presence when there are disagreements, and exhausted by the discussions, you must realize that he is not the right person for you; and vice versa, regardless of chronological ages.
Through tears on his part, threats, blackmail, etc., do not resume the courtship ever. Pity does not mean love. Do not submit to pressures either. In addition, whining approaches are not at all loving, or respectful, or even appropriate on the part of partners who are ripe for truly valued relationships.

Carina8 March 2013 at 15:07
A young man asked me to be in a relationship and I said no because the ones in my room always told me to say no because he was not too good for me and I said and the same day I felt sad and I said no It's different with me, I think I like him because I can not stop thinking about him and I'm jealous because my 2 best friend is always with him and I need to know his feelings for him and if I feel I want to know what to do.

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Zero November 17th, 2013 at 02:25
What I am going to write here will be a bit long, but I beg you to read and help me, it may sound like a joke, but what I am going to say is the truth.

A 1 year ago I started to like a girl who at the time had a boyfriend, I knew that this guy was not good, although she liked him a lot, so I decided to let her live her life. I even dreamed that he would do something bad for her, and that she would need min.

Well, this girl is going through a difficult time, she's having problems with her family, and to make matters worse, she broke up with her boyfriend, and he will not leave her alone, send messages threatening her and things like that.

I offered to help her, I talk to her, I play games to make her laugh, I'm even helping her with this problem of the ex, but the problem is that all that feeling I had for her is coming back afresh. of conversation and play, my desire is to hold her in my arms, to kiss her, to caress her, to give myself body and soul to her, but my fear is to be rejected and to make matters worse for her, I'm afraid of getting too close and hurting me again, and it's killing me.

PF what should I do?

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Suelen10th December 2013 at 17:34
Well, I was going to be engaged at Christmas, but my mother met her mother and she said it's not for me, and she says a lot of things to my mother about her. Now my mother came home and said that I'm not going to be married any more. , and came with some kind of weird chat that it's for me to end the dating what I do? And how I finish please help me please

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Thalia5 April 2014 at 15:58
It's not for me to write a lot so I'll summarize, I love a Boy dating him for 2 months and a few days .. he left Criime's life for me, but I have a lot of jealousy of him guy I love him I enter his face and I do not know if he speaks the truth to me and if he really loves me every day I cry: '(Answer
andressa14 May 2015 at 00:46
I've been with my boyfriend for 2 years, and his family goes away and he goes along, I do not know what to do, I love him too much: '(

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Débora1 June 2015 at 05:22
I'm 15 years old and I'm very pretty (not wanting to brag), but I'm very confused among boys, everyone wants to be with me and I just got 2 and now they're on my tail and I do not know who I'm with two are too much and kiss well and I do not want to hurt anyone

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Giovanna5 October 2015 at 00:27
How can I tell my parents that I'm dating, is he my first boyfriend that I want to tell my parents?

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Maria2 November 2015 at 14:02
I have a best friend, and we are very well together but now a girl has gotten in with us and does not leave us, as if we were the best friends !!! I said this to a girl and she said she did not like that girl either, anyway nobody likes her !! And the girl found out that I was saying bad things about her in the back but she still does not leave us !! And I do not dare tell you to turn away! Help me please!!

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Anonymous6 January, 2016 at 02:10
I need a county ...... .good my story begins like this ... I finished a relationship of 3 years to 3 months .... And at 2 months I joined a relationship application, and soon I met a guy, the funniest he lives near me, but anyway ... ..we have already talked ... but I have always found some strange actions of him I already fought with him 2 times for thinking he is dating and not telling me, but he swears by standing beside him that .... I do not know what to do ... I've given it some time ... but our chemistry is intense ... something I've never seen ...... but the funny thing that as crazy as it has ever been, it still wants to see me ... .. what do I do? ???

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Sarah18 February 2016 at 4:21 PM
Well ... I need some advice ... you know I'm a girl and I think I'm starting to like my friend's EX, what do I do?

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Domi17 June 2016 at 10:40 p.m.
make sure you like it anyway .. or if it's just some kind of temporary lack or passion ... dps just talk to your friend and make sure she does not feel anything .. nor have anything with this person and if she does not go caring or annoying you so .. if she happens to be annoying .. or you try to persuade her that this is not a reason to fight or something .. or you give up the friendship .. or the person you is liking..but if she does not get upset, just go ahead:

Sarah18 February 2016 at 16:29
Good .. I am a girl and I think I'm liking the EX of my friend she makes me confused she feels jealous of me and tals but she still likes my friend
I do not know what to do, help me?

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Bella28 March 2016 at 18:54
I think you need to get away from their relationship a little. If she feels jealous it is because she still likes the boy or is not confident in her friendship.
Spoiling friendship for guys is the worst bullshit two friends can do. Remember: He is not the only one in the world and not the first you will fall in love.
Talk to your friend, be honest with her. But I'm already warning you that ... "this will shake your relationship with her."

Honestly, it's not worth playing out a friendship for a crush.

Rebeca27 February 2016 at 12:03
I'm 14 and I'm bvl, not because I missed opportunities but because I thought it was wrong to stay with people so young. Now that I'm older I'm ashamed to say I've never kissed. I found a nice boy, cool with me, and he wants to go to the movies with me, but I'm scared to death that I do not know how to kiss. As I'm ashamed to say that I've never kissed, I've already said that I kissed 3 faces. I'm nervous without knowing what to do, I do not feel anything for him. He is 17 years old and cat, other boys more cats than he had asked to be with me but I did not accept for fear of making mistakes, of not knowing how to kiss. And what do I do?

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Bella28 March 2016 at 18:51
Firstly, I think you're too young to worry about that. Second, you should not be telling lies about it, it's normal and extremely natural for a 14-year-old girl to be BV. Older boys of 17, do not just want a kiss on the mouth, learn it!
Let time speak for itself, do not rush things, do not lie, do not be a person you are not, you have no reason to be ashamed of something so pure and natural.
If a first kiss has to happen, let it happen naturally, and at the time everything connects and the kiss comes out naturally.
Stay calm, do not worry and watch out for the silly hands of the older guys.Good luck.

Tata21 April 2016 at 21:40
I'm having a guy, he's 22 years old, I'm 15, I do not know if it's going to work, I'm afraid he wants something else (if you understand me) and I'm not sure I want him, I do not know if I really like him his. Help me

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A friend27 July 2016 at 05:26
You need to first really know whether you like him or not, because you do not have "why" to stay with someone you do not like. Relationships are serious stuff, so it's interesting to have one when you're serious. "Something else" should only happen when a "serious thing" exists, unless you consider yourself to be the object of another person's use or the other person serves you as an object of use. And when I say object, I say not only the body, but its spirit and its emotional. If you respect, know yourself, love each other. See how sacred you are, what you are, and who you like, and when you feel ready and prepared find someone who shares the same feelings that you are very sad to like alone. <3 I hope I have helped.

jessica21 June 2016 at 14:31
I love my husband, we have 3 years together I have 1 daughter from the first marriage.
he also has 2 children his daughter is 17 years old if he plants good girl already has a boyfriend and everything but he prefers to have a blindfold and treat her as a child the girl does nothing in ksa only lying on the cell phone does not wash if she wants her little panties, not even the dish that eats there, I do not say anything, but I close my face and barely speak.
My daughter is 3 years old but she stays with the grandmother than me because I work 12 hours a day so I take her on my vacation, because she is always with her grandmother so she is spoiled, she has certain wants, and he does not like this creation that She looks at him and says I do not like you, do not stay near him, and so on.
so get into a situation that I do not know what you want to do?
He does not want to but I take my daughter to his ksa.
What do I do

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Isabella20 January 2017 at 14:38
So me and my ex finished 3 times
And he wants to talk to me, if he asks me to come back, what do I do?
He was robbed and he is going to get his mother's cell phone to call me, I'm afraid he finishes cmg again what do I do ???Answer
Bruna16 May 2017 at 18:59
I do not know what to do ! I need help asap! I'm my friend, we do not know if we get together (like dating), and we can not talk much, he asked me these days: what would change if we stayed together?
Can you help me with this ?

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Ana16 July 2017 at 14:36
Hello
I would like to tell you first that you deserve more than that, according to what he treats you like this is because he is not really loving you, because love and care and affection and if he is not treating you well, it shows the total lack of disinterest his. You should rethink in your life, I already had a boyfriend who put the blame on me too, but do not feel that it is the fault, do not carry only for you, in humans when things are bad and we can not solve, we tend to put the blame others to justify our actions, so I say, do not believe him, do not be submissive to someone like that. I know it is difficult to follow the voda without someone who we think is everything for us, but there is a world away from him that you still do not know, and that world will make you knower of yourself, you will love your life and things, relationships are important and good, but when we are not with "vampires" of energy, the beginning of living without someone on our side is very difficult, but if you choose this will be good for you and will open space to enter someone in your life that you never thought you could relate to. Hope this helps. And be happy regardless of your choice if you value it.